I do struggle to understand or relate to other people's feelings, or read exactly how they're feeling. When I succeed at these things, I don't always recognize it as "empathy", and I don't always succeed in acting upon it. I definitely have empathy, it's just wonky.

But I don't need to have the exact same empathy as others to be a good person. For me, kindness is a philosophical commitment. It's the only way to act that makes sense.