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Hello. This probably isnât the type of message you want to see here but I am here to talk about your behavior towards my friend. Things such as calling him a pathological liar, admitting to grooming etc. what Iâd like to express my thoughts on this is how doing this can hurt someone. He has apologized for the things he has done in the past. This by any means doesnât mean anyone has to forgive him or like him now, however, itâs wrong to talk badly about someone who has done something yet apologized for it, especially in public. Was it stupid? Maybe. I canât be the judge of that. But words hurt, especially to people who are trying to change and/or also dislike themselves. I donât understand why you feel the need to ruin this personâs life when they claim to be trying to better themselves. What fun do you see in making someone possibly not want to live anymore. I donât know if you have first hand experience with what he has done in the past but the truth is that he may not be who he is in the past anymore. Once again, this doesnât mean you have to get along with him. You can hate him too. But you have no right in trying to hurt him now when he is trying his best. Hurting people only spreads the hate and hurt and doesnât help the situation at all. Back to talking about it in public, if you feel unsafe about a person and donât trust them thus you want to talk about to let others you care about know, there are better ways to do it. Publicly expressing your hate is not the way. You can share your experiences and how you feel but in situations like these, itâs important that the message you are trying to express is wariness and worry, not hatred, even if you hate the individual because once again, the person may be trying to better themselves and while this will sound overly positive, you donât know what that person is going through or has been through. You donât have to be friends with him but please consider that he is a human being and is affected by the things that you say.đ
Hello! So, just so you know, I am one of his victims who he sexually abused. What he did to me, my boyfriend and my best friend was absolutely disgusting. Using my best friend as a rebound and grooming him, then disregarding his statements and not replying to anything he has said. As for me and my boyfriend, what he has done to us is absolutely disgusting. He admitted to being a pathological liar HIMSELF, how are we meant to believe his apology is true? We are driving him off the internet because he is An Abuser. Telling people I like children when the screenshots he has of me âadmitting to proshippingâ was when I was processing my Sexual Trauma regarding other things and coped via proshipping. He and my bf were the only two people who saw those messages as I thought I could trust them with my vulnerable state and then he posted those publicly to humiliate me to use it as a âgotchaâ. If he is admitting to sexual abuse and grooming, then that should say something- A simple âIâm so sorry I didnât mean to abuse and groom youâ means nothing when the memories, nightmares and feelings are still there. An apology means nothing when itâs abuse and grooming, sorry. I know youâre trying to be a good friend and I understand that, but he has hurt so many people but ignored everyone elseâs statements against him. He targets ME the most because I was the only person to speak up about what he did to us. I do not fucking care if he is so upset, if he is âjust humanâ because telling victims to âforget about what heâs done because he is trying to get betterâ is so funny because you do not know what he put us all through. As I reiterate, NOT just me and my boyfriend but MY BEST FRIEND too. More than one persons word for what he has done. Please donât send anything like this to my inbox again because as a victim, I feel like my experiences with him are never taken seriously because I âproship and like incestâ or âmy alter sexted his nonregressing alterâ. If you skim through my page and search the word âAliceâ you will find more. Please consider how this hurts ME and the other victims involved. Please be more mindful and please come to me if you want more info on what your friend has done to us. @fuijeda on Discord.
"I donât know if you have first hand experience with what he has done in the past " We are the people he abused. I am the person he groomed.