oh, that's an interesting take! i don't think you can generalize it like that to be honest. like, people who've been in relationships for many years may also write lighter stuff, and people who haven't totally have the capacities to write with emotional depth.

but i also see what you mean in regards to your own experiences influencing the way you approach writing. i can only speak for myself, but i did find it difficult to write stories with main characters who are very unlike me for a very long time (i also think this is in part because i started writing from a very young age). now i definitely don't feel that way anymore and haven't for years, like i like it so much more to write about people who have very different personalities. sorry, little tangent, but what i mean to say is that you and your own experiences certainly do influence your writing, but i think it depends on you as a person as to what extent that happens and if you choose to let it happen or not. if that makes sense. i don't wanna make the call and say you need to have experienced a relationship to know love or to write about relationships in a deep or emotional or mature way, because i don't think that's true. i think it's probably more a matter of self-reflection and of understanding the world around you, and everyone's capable of that, just like how everyone's probably capable of writing fun smutty soap opera plots