In my experience, being open about your freak shit (sfw or nsfw) is much more likely to attract people on your wavelength than trying to pass as a normie. Yes, even on dating apps.

Also YOU GOTTA ACTUALLY SHOOT YOUR SHOT. Im sorry! You have to pull the trigger at some point in the conversation! "Hey i think we have a fun rapport and im really attracted to you, wanna go get a drink?". something! Anything! Otherwise you WILL be stuck in small-talk-hell!

And if youre sharing dick pics (consensually): GOOD LIGHTING! LOW ANGLE! MOISTURIZE! PRE-SHOTS AND MONEY SHOTS IF YOU CAN! BALLS!